{"id":1810,"date":"2022-02-23T14:30:55","date_gmt":"2022-02-23T15:30:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/?p=1810"},"modified":"2022-04-02T05:57:21","modified_gmt":"2022-04-02T05:57:21","slug":"the-4-step-plan-to-talk-to-anybody-about-anything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/everything-else\/the-4-step-plan-to-talk-to-anybody-about-anything\/","title":{"rendered":"The 4 Step Plan to Talk to Anybody (About Anything)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3570121\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/nervous-lego.jpg\" alt=\"These legos feel awkward talking.\" width=\"709\" height=\"240\" srcset=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/nervous-lego.jpg 709w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/nervous-lego-300x102-1.jpg 300w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/nervous-lego-600x203-1.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 709px) 100vw, 709px\" \/><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><b>If you find yourself struggling to talk with people, or you want to try and meet NEW people, you&#8217;ve come to the right place!<\/b><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Today we&#8217;re gonna teach you how to master a conversation, instead of <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">staring<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> at your feet hoping somebody else will come talk to you. <\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>These are the 4 steps you can master to talk to ANYBODY about ANYTHING:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"#how_to_make_small_talk\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Step 1: How to Make Small Talk &#8211; and Not Suck at It<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"#talk_to_random_people\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Step 2: Talking to Random People\u00a0<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"#be_good_at_talking\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Step 3: When to Be Quirky<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"#be_fun_to_talk_to\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Step 4: Being Fun to Talk To<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"#start_talking\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How Do You Interact with Others (Start Talking)<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By the end of today\u2019s article, your friends will need a muzzle to shut you up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>Believe it or not, we actually often work on \u201csocial skills\u201d with our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nerdfitness.com\/coaching-overview-page\/\">1-on-1 NF Coaching<\/a>\u00a0clients.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many clients are bettering themselves to start dating again, so we work hard to help them level up all areas of their lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: center;\">\t<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nerdfitness.com\/coaching-overview-page\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\n\t\t<button class=\"cta-button yellow\"><br \/>\n\t\t\tTrying to improve your life? Learn how a Nerd Fitness Coach can help!\t\t<\/button><br \/>\n\t<\/a>\n<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Okie dokie, without further ado, let&#8217;s jump in.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><span id=\"more-18727\"><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\"><a name=\"how_to_make_small_talk\"><\/a>Step 1: How to Make Small Talk &#8211; and Not Suck at It<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-3570122\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/happy-small-talk-713x528-1.jpg\" alt=\"Small talk can make you happy.\" width=\"713\" height=\"528\" srcset=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/happy-small-talk-713x528-1.jpg 713w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/happy-small-talk-300x222-1.jpg 300w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/happy-small-talk-768x569-1.jpg 768w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/happy-small-talk-600x445-1.jpg 600w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/happy-small-talk.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 713px) 100vw, 713px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>The main reason we human folk seek to connect with one another is that it scratches a social itch.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Our social needs are just like hunger and thirst\u2014we eat, drink, and talk to people because there\u2019s a gap between our actual state (hungry\/thirsty\/lonely) and our ideal state (satiated\/quenched\/connected).<\/p>\n<p>Your brain is saying, \u201cDude, mind helping me out a little? I\u2019m not where I want to be.\u201d<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>The whole idea here is to feel better <em>after<\/em> than we did <em>before<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">You ever talk to people who are in a super sour mood?<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-3968799\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bad-mood.gif\" alt=\"Hank from Breaking Bad frowning at table. \" width=\"458\" height=\"345\" \/><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">It\u2019s kind of contagious, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Unless you happen to be friends with people who can make crankiness charming (such as professional comedians), it\u2019s usually a bit of a bummer.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Let\u2019s not be bummers!<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Let\u2019s be those other kinds of people, the ones who leave our conversational partners in good moods after they talk to us.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Engaging in happy small talk\u00a0isn&#8217;t\u00a0just good for the people we talk to, by the way\u2014it helps us as well.<\/strong> \u201cFake it \u2018til you make it\u201d is more than just a catchy rhyme.<\/p>\n<p>The idea that acting a certain way encourages us to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>be that way<\/strong><\/span> has been around since Aristotle\u2019s time. Take a look at his quote (from over 2,300 years ago!):<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">\u201cMen acquire a particular quality by constantly acting a particular way.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">We become just by performing just actions, temperate by performing temperate actions, brave by performing brave actions.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>Turns out the man knew what he was talking about.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">A team led by Fritz Strack showed in 1988 showed<a class=\"fn-ref-mark\" href=\"#footnote-1\" id=\"refmark-1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a> that simply holding a pen in your mouth in a way that simulates the muscle movements of smiling makes cartoons seem funnier than when you hold it between your lips like a straw; other studies have shown<a class=\"fn-ref-mark\" href=\"#footnote-2\" id=\"refmark-2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0that merely crossing your arms can make you more persistent!<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">So the next time you\u2019re feeling surly and looking for a change, <strong>challenge yourself<\/strong> to talk to someone in a more upbeat way and see if that helps shake it off.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I\u2019m not suggesting you bop around like sunshine and fairy dust, but\u00a0isn&#8217;t\u00a0it powerful to realize that by simply chatting with another person in a positive way, you can walk away from the conversation with both you and them feeling better off?<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>(Feel free to give a little mental fist bump to Aristotle when you see how well this works.)<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><a name=\"talk_to_random_people\"><\/a>Step 2: Talking to Random People<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-3570123\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/thoughtful-small-talk-713x442-1.jpg\" alt=\"Be thoughtful in your conversations.\" width=\"713\" height=\"442\" srcset=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/thoughtful-small-talk.jpg 713w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/thoughtful-small-talk-300x186-1.jpg 300w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/thoughtful-small-talk-600x372-1.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 713px) 100vw, 713px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Good small talk adapts in real-time, thoughtfully and attentively applying to whatever is happening in the moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This may sound overwhelming at first, especially if you like to plan things to say out in advance. The trick is to take a step back and pick one thing, anything, on which to focus your attention.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>There\u2019s a finite list of what this thing will be:<\/strong><b><b><br \/>\n<\/b><\/b><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Whether it\u2019s sunny, rainy, or snowy, that\u2019s <strong>weather<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<li>Whether it\u2019s a street parade, an art exhibit, or a hot tub limousine driving by, that\u2019s <strong>scenery<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<li>Whether it\u2019s someone with crazy shoes, a guy doing back handsprings, or a woman swinging from a chandelier, that\u2019s <strong>people<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<li>Whether it\u2019s a cute baby, a fluffy puppy, or a cool book, that\u2019s <strong>belongings<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><em>See how all of a sudden you can imagine having one or two prepared responses that can still perfectly apply to even the most novel of situations?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Now, this may only get you as far as your first or second line within a conversation, after which you may need to start coming up with stuff in the moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But the same logic of \u201cstep back\/pick one thing\u201d applies here too, and will help you keep from getting overwhelmed or panicking about what to say.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Here\u2019s an example of small talk:<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>You:<\/strong> \u201cI think I literally saw a cat and a dog raining down from the sky today.\u201d<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>Them:<\/strong> \u201cHa! I know, right? I thought it was supposed to be spring.\u201d<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>You:<\/strong> \u201cIt must be really tough to be a weatherman. You\u2019re either stating the obvious or you\u2019re a liar.\u201d<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>Them:<\/strong> \u201cMy cousin is a weatherman.\u201d<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"padding-left: 60px;\"><em>Curveball! You haven\u2019t prepared anything about weatherman cousins! But this is interesting and novel enough to justify a conversational tangent all its own (and could fall under the category of jobs, if you wanted to add it to your earlier list). Try a simple question.<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>You:<\/strong> \u201cOh, interesting. How\u2019d he or she get into that?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Before you know it, you\u2019re having a unique conversation, not banal &#8220;small talk&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re also learning things about your conversational partner (and they about you), which will help you build from one-off conversations with strangers to consistent friendships and relationships with people.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Challenge yourself to identify these \u201cone things\u201d (weather, books, back handsprings) as you\u2019re out interacting with people<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Use the comfort of a prepared line to open with if you like, but with the goal of finding something interesting that\u2019s happening in <em>that moment<\/em> to comment on. Your conversations will instantly be more thoughtful, and the people you\u2019re talking to will feel it, too.<\/p>\n<h2><a name=\"be_good_at_talking\"><\/a>Step 3: When to Be Quirky<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-3968784\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/weird-cat-scaled-1.jpg\" alt=\"Hairless cat with mask on white\" width=\"603\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/weird-cat-scaled-1.jpg 2560w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/weird-cat-300x199-1.jpg 300w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/weird-cat-713x473-1.jpg 713w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/weird-cat-768x510-1.jpg 768w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/weird-cat-1536x1020-1.jpg 1536w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/weird-cat-2048x1360-1.jpg 2048w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/weird-cat-600x398-1.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 603px) 100vw, 603px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>My cousin Kim met my fianc\u00e9 for the first time a few months ago.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As soon as we all sat down, she said to him, \u201cTell me every single thing about yourself, starting from birth, and ending with right now.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><em>I thought it was just about the greatest thing I\u2019ve ever heard.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>If my friend Jess is at someone\u2019s house for the first time, she\u2019ll say, \u201cIf I were the bathroom, where would I be?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>She gets the answer&#8211; and a chuckle.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>My friend David struck up a conversation with a cute girl in Jiffy Lube by asking her if she thought the guy in the waiting room looked like a beagle.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>He called me to thank me for introducing him to his girlfriend.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>These examples all have in common the theme of turning awkwardness into awesomeness.<\/strong> They\u2019re about <a title=\"Confident\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nerdfitness.com\/blog\/2010\/09\/09\/5-ways-to-immediately-appear-more-confident\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">being confident<\/a>, not being smooth.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes dialing up the awkward dial can be just what everyone needs to loosen up a little, like when my friend Mike starts his presentations at work by saying, \u201cIf I seem incredibly nervous, it\u2019s because I am indeed incredibly nervous.\u201d It\u2019s a bold strategy, to be sure, but it can be incredibly refreshing.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s something undeniably fun about someone who says, \u201cI\u2019m hugely overcaffeinated right now, so I may pass out at some point. How was your weekend?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In short, don\u2019t feel pressure to rigidly adhere to some abstract notion of what small talk <em>should<\/em> be, losing all of your own delightful personality in the process. You\u2019re a member of the Rebellion, after all!<\/p>\n<p><em>You <a title=\"conventional wisdom\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nerdfitness.com\/blog\/2012\/02\/14\/conventional-wisdom\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">challenge conventional wisdom<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nerdfitness.com\/blog\/2012\/09\/20\/embrace-the-weird\/\">embrace the weird<\/a> every day&#8211; let small talk be no exception.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\"><a name=\"be_fun_to_talk_to\"><\/a>Step 4: How Can I Be Fun to Talk To?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-3968792\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/boards-with-nail.jpg\" alt=\"Board with nails\" width=\"746\" height=\"472\" srcset=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/boards-with-nail.jpg 2365w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/boards-with-nail-300x190-1.jpg 300w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/boards-with-nail-713x451-1.jpg 713w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/boards-with-nail-768x486-1.jpg 768w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/boards-with-nail-1536x972-1.jpg 1536w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/boards-with-nail-2048x1295-1.jpg 2048w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/boards-with-nail-600x380-1.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 746px) 100vw, 746px\" \/><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>Remembering the little things? Sweet. Remembering every little thing? Creepy.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I happen to be in possession of a frighteningly good memory; I remember specific conversations (as well as where they took place, and what we were wearing) with people who couldn\u2019t pick me out of a lineup.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m absolutely the person who goes up to people and says, \u201cYou\u2019re a chiropractor? We sat next to each other on a plane from L.A. to San Francisco about a year ago, right?\u201d Yes, right\u2026 but it didn\u2019t matter. The dude was thoroughly creeped out, and I couldn\u2019t blame him!<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve had to learn to hold back a little (okay, a lot) and not spew forth with every single thing I remember about my last conversation with someone the next time I see them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Instead of:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201chow was that conference you went to in Phoenix?\u201d go with, \u201cYou were going out of town when I saw you last, right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Instead of:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cIs your upper left molar feeling any better?\u201d go with, \u201cHey, how\u2019s it going?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Like a good hairdo or pocket square, it sometimes takes a bit of effort in conversation to make it seem effortless, but it\u2019s far preferable to freaking people out.<\/p>\n<p>Take your time.<\/p>\n<p>With each conversation, you\u2019re watering a healthy plant, not dousing a fire.<b><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/b><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>In fact, leaving a bit unsaid is probably the best way to ensure future conversations,<\/strong> and give you something to talk about next time!<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Besides, when you&#8217;re\u00a0<em>imprecise<\/em>, you allow the other person to narrow in on a topic that they are comfortable with, rather than forcing them to talk about their upper left molar!<\/p>\n<h2><a name=\"start_talking\"><\/a>How Do You Interact with Others? (Start Talkin\u2019)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-3570127\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/stromtrooper-small-talk-713x535-1.jpg\" alt=\"These Troopers are stoked they know how to have a conversation.\" width=\"713\" height=\"535\" srcset=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/stromtrooper-small-talk-713x535-1.jpg 713w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/stromtrooper-small-talk-300x225-1.jpg 300w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/stromtrooper-small-talk-768x576-1.jpg 768w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/stromtrooper-small-talk-600x450-1.jpg 600w, http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/stromtrooper-small-talk.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 713px) 100vw, 713px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>With these four keys in mind, you\u2019re ready to start small talkin\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>Challenge yourself to approach one person a day and strike up a conversation, even if it\u2019s brief. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Like everything else we do in life, good social skills can be learned, developed, honed, and improved.\u00a0 <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Though, it&#8217;s really tough to practice unless you commit to TRYING it out.<\/p>\n<p>And who cares if the conversation goes poorly?<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Failure is awesome\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nerdfitness.com\/blog\/2011\/10\/17\/fail-more\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Failure is awesome<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Odds are you will NEVER see that person again in your life, and your life is no different now than it was 5 minutes before the conversation.<\/p>\n<p><em>Of course, the opposite could be true: you could meet somebody awesome.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3968801\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/panda-best-friend.gif\" alt=\"Panda&#039;s hugging with &quot;you&#039;re my best friend&quot; subtitled at bottom. \" width=\"498\" height=\"243\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>And there&#8217;s only one way to find out which outcome you&#8217;re gonna get.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re feeling really rusty, give it a shot with a friend or family member and ask for a little feedback afterward.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re feeling bold, approach someone you\u00a0wouldn&#8217;t\u00a0normally talk to. If you draw a blank, ask a question.<\/p>\n<p><em>Breathe, smile, listen. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Most of all, remember why you\u2019re doing this, and remind yourself that you\u2019re not imposing on someone by having a pleasant conversation with them\u2014you\u2019re making their day a bit brighter, and you should never be made to feel bad about that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>As always, I\u2019m very interested to hear what you think, and how these lessons feel when you take them out for a spin.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>We all crave regular social interaction; you might be surprised by how easy being <i>good<\/i> at small talk really is!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><i>What are your major\u00a0hangups\u00a0with small talk? <\/i><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><i>Where do you plan to give these tricks a try?<\/i><\/p>\n<p><strong>-Lindsay\u00a0<b>Miller (good friend of Steve, and the Relationship &amp; Social Skills expert of Nerd Fitness!)<\/b><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>PS: Like developing your social skills,<\/strong> getting healthy can be really intimidating, which is why we\u2019ve built services and products to help you overcome the chaos and feel confident in the actions you\u2019re taking every day:<\/p>\n<p><strong>#1) <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nerdfitness.com\/coaching-overview-page\/\">1-on-1 Online Coaching<\/a>:<\/strong>\u00a0A coach from Team NF gets to know you better than you know yourself and builds a workout program and nutritional strategy that fits your busy life, your body type, and your goals.<\/p>\n<p><b>#2) If you want an exact blueprint for learning new skills, check out Nerd Fitness Journey! <\/b>Our fun habit-building app helps you exercise more frequently, eat healthier, and level up your life (literally).<\/p>\n<p>You can even join our private community of nerds, many of whom are also trying to improve their social skills!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Try your free trial right here:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<div class=\"nf-in-post-signup-leadin\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"nf-in-post-signup\" style=\"background: none; border: none;\">\n\t\t\t\t<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/click.nerdfitness.com\/8BxQ\/534d8131\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img class=\"desktop-show mobile-hide\" style=\"margin-left:auto; margin-right: auto;\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/NF_Journey_GenericAd_Desktop_v3_A.jpg\" \/><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img class=\"desktop-hide mobile-show\" src=\"http:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/NF_Journey_GeneralAd_Mobile_v3_A.jpg\" \/><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n<p><strong>#3) Just want to learn more about what we do?<\/strong> That&#8217;s great too! 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