Which is kind of amazing, when you realize that I have complete autonomy, created Nerd Fitness, and essentially <\/span>built my own job<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n I had spent years trying to be the person that I thought Nerd Fitness and the community <\/span>needed<\/span><\/i> me to be, instead of doing what I\u2019m actually good at (writing interesting things in fun ways and helping people level up).<\/span><\/p>\n How did I find myself in that unwanted place?<\/span><\/p>\n One small decision after another, slowly over many years.<\/span><\/p>\n I kept picking projects I didn\u2019t like and forcing myself to do them, but justified it to myself by saying, \u201cI just have to do this until [arbitrary goal or date], and then I can be done.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n The problem of course, was that I never reached my arbitrary goal. Or I changed what the goal was, or the world changed, or the business changed.<\/span><\/p>\n I ended up spending every day doing something I didn\u2019t like, for a payoff that never came.<\/span><\/p>\n I did this for <\/span>years, <\/span><\/i>and burned myself out.<\/span><\/p>\n After<\/b> \u200b<\/span>lots of therapy<\/b>\u200b<\/span><\/a>, long walks, soul searching and failing repeatedly, I finally asked the important question:<\/b> If I NEVER \u201cget there,\u201d what would I do differently?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n I realized I <\/span>had<\/span><\/i> to change how I spent my time and how I set goals.<\/span><\/p>\n Instead of doing stuff I didn\u2019t like and hoping for an eventual payoff, I restructured my day around why I started Nerd Fitness in the first place:<\/span><\/p>\n Reading widely about random topics that pique my interest, and then sharing my excited thoughts on those topics with a bunch of nerds (hey, that\u2019s you!).<\/span><\/p>\n Since then, I\u2019ve written dozens of newsletters about weird topics, hobbies, life, philosophy, and everything in between:<\/b><\/p>\n 130,000+ people now get this newsletter every week, and it\u2019s only reinforced my decision to stop focusing on the destination and get back to finding ways to enjoy the journey.<\/span><\/p>\n I plan on writing this newsletter for <\/span>decades<\/span><\/i> to come, and I am excited about this opportunity to email you weird stuff weekly.<\/span><\/p>\n I now ask you the same question.<\/span><\/p>\n Years ago, I stumbled across somebody on Reddit asking what the worst part was about being overweight.<\/b><\/p>\n One answer broke my heart:<\/span><\/p>\n “The fact that you put your whole life on hold, telling yourself that you will resume living when you lose the weight. Then, not being consistent with said weight loss journey and basically…never getting to truly live.”<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Every day, I see people doing exercise they hate, or trying to follow a diet they don\u2019t enjoy, to reach an arbitrary number on the scale that they think will make them happy.<\/span><\/p>\n Most can\u2019t stick with the diet or workout for more than a few weeks, get demoralized, and give up.<\/span><\/p>\n Others manage to lose the weight, only to realize seeing a smaller number on their scale didn\u2019t magically solve all of their problems. They decide the daily misery isn\u2019t worth it.<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s time to flip the script and give up!<\/span><\/p>\n We\u2019ll never \u201cget there,\u201d because \u201cthere\u201d isn\u2019t an actual place we can get. It\u2019s a state of mind.<\/span><\/p>\n This should change how we think about the workout or diet we choose, the goal we design our life around, or the expectation we set for ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n My goal with this newsletter, and for our coaching clients, is helping people reach the following realization:<\/b><\/p>\n Finding<\/span> \u200b<\/span>ways to enjoy exercise<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a>, and making<\/span> \u200b<\/span>dietary changes that don\u2019t feel overwhelming<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a>, is the only path forward. Even better, this often results in reaching our goals faster than when we chased fads or strategies we hated!<\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019m reminded of this quote from philosopher Sam Harris:<\/b><\/p>\n \u201cMost of your life is the process of solving problems.<\/span><\/p>\n It is not, and never will be, a condition of basking in the absence of all problems. There will always be something to do.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Author Mark Manson put it more succinctly:<\/b><\/p>\n \u201c<\/b>Don\u2019t hope for a life with no problems. Hope for a life with better problems.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n As Albert Camus explains about<\/b> \u200b<\/span>Sisyphus pushing the boulder up the hill<\/b>\u200b<\/span><\/a>, there\u2019s a beautiful freedom that comes with acceptance of never \u201cgetting there\u201d:<\/b><\/p>\n Sisyphus is \u201cfree\u201d from the hope he would ever succeed. He accepts his fate he would never win, and thus can just get to work on finding meaning in pushing that rock, watching it roll back down, and starting over again.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n None of us are getting out of here alive, and today is the only guarantee.<\/span><\/p>\n I want to hear about what you would do differently if you <\/span>knew<\/span><\/i> you would never \u201cget there.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n What would you change?<\/span><\/p>\n Would you:<\/b><\/p>\n I want to hear what you\u2019ll change on your daily journey.<\/span><\/p>\n Hit reply and let me know. I\u2019ll be over here pushing this boulder up a hill.<\/span><\/p>\n -Steve<\/b><\/p>\n The post What if you NEVER get there?<\/a> first appeared on Nerd Fitness<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" About a year ago, I decided to make a big change to this very newsletter you\u2019re reading. You see, from 2020-2023 I was pretty unmotivated to do my job. 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