{"id":23227,"date":"2024-09-02T17:07:00","date_gmt":"2024-09-02T17:07:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/?p=23227"},"modified":"2024-09-11T18:59:39","modified_gmt":"2024-09-11T18:59:39","slug":"ask-for-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/everything-else\/ask-for-help\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask For Help"},"content":{"rendered":"

For a long time, I took a lot of pride in never needing to rely on other people.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am a conflict-avoidant people-pleaser, so I would often pride myself on <\/span>NEVER <\/span><\/i>allowing myself to rely on others. I certainly wouldn\u2019t let myself burden somebody else with my struggles.<\/span><\/p>\n

I jokingly shared how I felt about<\/span> \u200b<\/span>asking for help the other day on Instagram<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a>:<\/span><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

I would gladly help others without a second thought. But saw it as a character flaw for myself (and ONLY myself) if I asked for help.<\/span><\/p>\n

I believed that this was one of my strengths:<\/b> figuring everything out on my own and being available to help everybody else but NEVER asking others for help or guidance.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve come to realize how silly – and harmful – this mentality was. And I\u2019ll drill the point home in two wholesome ways.<\/span><\/p>\n

Asking For Help is a Sign of Strength<\/b><\/h2>\n

Lord of the Rings<\/span><\/i> has been at the front of my mind for the past week.<\/span><\/p>\n

Season 2 of <\/span>Rings of Power<\/span><\/i> recently started (and early reviews are saying it\u2019s a marked improvement over Season 1, which has me excited!).<\/span><\/p>\n

I also listened to a 3-part series about <\/span>The Lord of the Rings <\/span><\/i>on the<\/span> \u200b<\/span>What Went Wrong? <\/span><\/i>Podcast<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a>.<\/span> It covers how this trilogy came to life, just how many things had to go right, and what a monumental feat it was bringing Tolkien to the big screen in such incredible and cinematically brilliant fashion.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thinking about Middle Earth and Lord of the Rings reminded me of one of the memes that<\/span> \u200b<\/span>inspired me to start therapy<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a>. If Aragorn, the manliest man ever (okay he\u2019s Numenorean and part-elf, but you know what I mean) leaned on his friends\u2026maybe it\u2019s okay for me to lean on others for help too.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Asking For Help is a Super Power<\/b><\/h2>\n

While I reflected on writing this newsletter, I stumbled across a video that brought a massive smile to my face.<\/b><\/p>\n

Powerlifter\/personal trainer Sherein Abdelhady was filming herself doing heavy deadlifts in a commercial gym, and a random dude approached her between sets and asked one of the most wholesome questions I\u2019ve ever seen in a gym interaction:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cHey this is a weird request\u2026but can you teach me how to deadlift?\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

His request was polite and respectful, and Abdelhady was more than happy to help!<\/b><\/p>\n

As a result, this guy learned how to deadlift from somebody who knew much more than he did in that area! And now this guy will have a better experience (and probably save himself from injury) for the rest of his life doing this incredible exercise.<\/span><\/p>\n

What a super power! Props to this guy for being a real human, and recognizing that asking for help and being open to learning is a freaking superpower.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m used to seeing videos of women who are approached by jerks who offer unsolicited advice or mansplain (with terrible recommendations) to women who are far more knowledgeable than the jerk..<\/span><\/p>\n

So this was an incredible flip of the script. I love it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Asking For Help (One Last Thought)<\/b><\/h2>\n

I\u2019ll leave you with one final thought before I ask YOU for a request.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I ask for help, I have a tendency to follow it up with \u201cI owe you one.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

This<\/span> \u200b<\/span>thought from professor Adam Grant<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a> changed my perspective:<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

I love this.<\/span><\/p>\n

I have to stop myself EVERY TIME somebody helps me, and instead of saying \u201ci owe you one,\u201d I simply thank them. I know that I would gladly help them without expecting a favor in return. I help because it\u2019s the right thing to do!<\/span><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s my question for you today:<\/span><\/p>\n

Is there a part of your life where you\u2019ve avoided asking for help, trying to figure it all out on your own?<\/b><\/p>\n

Can you reframe this in a more useful way? One that sees asking for help as a sign of intelligence and strength – not weakness.<\/span><\/p>\n

Can you reach out for help today, and NOT say \u201cthanks I owe you one\u201d and instead just pay it forward?<\/span><\/p>\n

Ask for help! It\u2019s good enough for Aragron, and this nerdy dude in the gym\u2026it\u2019s probably okay for you too.<\/span><\/p>\n

-Steve<\/b><\/p>\n

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