{"id":44801,"date":"2024-11-04T14:48:55","date_gmt":"2024-11-04T15:48:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/?p=44801"},"modified":"2024-11-04T15:58:46","modified_gmt":"2024-11-04T15:58:46","slug":"the-past-isnt-set-in-stone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bestratefinders.com\/blog\/everything-else\/the-past-isnt-set-in-stone\/","title":{"rendered":"The Past Isn\u2019t Set In Stone"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m currently reading<\/b> \u200b<\/span>The Tainted Cup<\/b>\u200b<\/span><\/a>, a fantasy detective novel.<\/b><\/p>\n

Think \u201cSherlock Holmes set in Westeros.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The main character has this augmentation that allows him to absorb every single detail of every interaction, crime scene, and then recite back these exact details at a later date.<\/span><\/p>\n

I remember a horrifying <\/span>Black Mirror<\/span><\/i> episode about this very thing: being able to recall every fact of every interaction in the past.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Here\u2019s the thing: in all of these scenarios, the facts might be true, but the analysis of these facts still leaves plenty of room for improvement.<\/span><\/p>\n

I thought about this a lot recently when I stumbled across two stories I want to share:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201c<\/b>\u200b<\/span>The Past is Not True<\/b>\u200b<\/span><\/a>\u201d from Derek Sivers:<\/b><\/p>\n

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When I was 17, I was driving recklessly and crashed into an oncoming car. I found out that I broke the other driver\u2019s spine, and she\u2019ll never walk again.<\/span><\/p>\n

I carried that burden with me everywhere, and felt so horrible about it for so many years that at age 35 I decided to find this woman to apologize. I found her name and address, went to her house, knocked on the door, and a middle-aged woman answered. As soon as I said, \u201cI\u2019m the teenager that hit your car eighteen years ago and broke your spine\u201d, I started sobbing – a big ugly cry, surfacing years of regret.<\/span><\/p>\n

She was so sweet, and hugged me saying, \u201cOh sweetie, sweetie! Don\u2019t worry. I\u2019m fine!\u201d Then she walked me into her living room. Walked.<\/span><\/p>\n

Turns out I had misunderstood.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes she fractured a couple vertebrae but it never stopped her from walking. She said \u201cthat little accident\u201d helped her pay more attention to her fitness, and since then has been in better health than ever.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then <\/span>she apologized<\/span><\/i> for causing the accident in the first place. Apologized.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

And this<\/b> \u200b<\/span>story about \u201cthe good ole days\u201d<\/b>\u200b<\/span><\/a> from author Morgan Housel:<\/b><\/p>\n

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A few months ago I reminisced to my wife about how awesome [life was in our early 20s]. We were 23, gainfully employed, living in our version of the Taj Mahal. This was before kids, so we slept in until 10am on the weekends, went for a walk, had brunch, took a nap, and went out for dinner. That was our life. For years.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThat was peak living, as good as it gets,\u201d I told her.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhat are you talking about?\u201d she said. \u201cYou were more anxious, scared, and probably depressed then than you\u2019ve ever been.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2026In my head, today, I look back and think, \u201cI must have been so happy then. Those were my best years.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

But in reality, at the time, I was thinking, \u201cI can\u2019t wait for these years to end.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

It has me thinking a lot about the past, and our future. It turns out, neither one is set in stone!<\/span><\/p>\n

Which Past Story can you rewrite?<\/b><\/h2>\n

As the clich\u00e9 goes, it\u2019s easier to connect the dots looking backward than it is looking forward.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is there a story from your past about a particular moment you\u2019re still carrying with you?<\/b><\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s one full of shame about something that happened, but it led to something even better for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s longing for a past life that never actually existed.<\/span><\/p>\n

The past already happened, but that doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s set in stone!<\/b><\/p>\n

Returning to Sivers:<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cYou can change your history.<\/span><\/p>\n

The actual factual events are such a small part of it. Everything else is perspective, open for re-interpretation.<\/span><\/p>\n

The past is never done.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I\u2019d love to know which story you\u2019re telling yourself about the past, good or bad, that you\u2019re deciding to rewrite?<\/span><\/p>\n

-Steve<\/b><\/p>\n

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I\u2019m currently reading \u200bThe Tainted Cup\u200b, a fantasy detective novel. Think \u201cSherlock Holmes set in Westeros.\u201d The main character has this augmentation that allows him to absorb every single detail of every interaction, crime scene, and then recite back these exact details at a later date. I remember a horrifying Black Mirror episode about this…
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