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Whatever goals or resolutions you\u2019ve set for yourself, I\u2019m excited for you!<\/span><\/p>\n We\u2019re all trying to better ourselves, and even though things haven\u2019t worked out the way we wanted them to in the past, we hope <\/span>this time<\/span><\/i> will be different.<\/span><\/p>\n Musician Nick Cave describes hope as \u201coptimism with a broken heart,\u201d and I think that\u2019s beautifully accurate. We\u2019re all trying to be different when change is so damn hard.<\/span><\/p>\n If you\u2019re trying to build a new workout habit or change the number on the scale this year, I salute you. Setting a goal to change is very commendable.<\/span><\/p>\n But to give ourselves the best chance of accomplishing our goal, we must combine the goal with some self-reflection and self-awareness.<\/span><\/p>\n Here are TWO questions to ask yourself as we begin 2025\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019m proud of you for starting again.<\/b><\/p>\n But what\u2019s different about this attempt?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n If you do what you\u2019ve always done, you\u2019ll get what you\u2019ve always got.<\/span><\/p>\n The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n If you pick the same goal or strategy that you tried (unsuccessfully) in the past, the end result will be the same: another lost year of \u201cwhy can\u2019t I get my act together?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n So, be deliberate about what\u2019s different this time!<\/span><\/p>\n Don\u2019t just \u201cgo on XYZ diet\u201d or \u201cgive up all sugar forever\u201d or \u201ctrain for a marathon\u201d again, especially if you\u2019ve tried those things before and couldn\u2019t stick with them.<\/span><\/p>\n Something has to be different this time:<\/span><\/p>\n Prove to yourself you\u2019ve learned something from your past attempts. Don\u2019t let past failures be in vain – they showed you what doesn\u2019t work <\/span>for you.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Try something different this time!<\/span><\/p>\n You\u2019re full of momentum right now, and that\u2019s great.<\/b><\/p>\n But three weeks from now, life will happen, and something will go wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n What has been your tendency when this happens in the past?<\/span><\/p>\n We ask every<\/span> \u200b<\/span>NF Coaching Client<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a> before they start, \u201cWhat are you most nervous about?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n That answer is something they\u2019re aware of as a result of their past attempts:<\/b><\/p>\n Are you going to get busy and decide \u201cto take a break until things slow down?\u201d<\/b> Great! Now you know when that little voice in your head says this, you can prepare for it, plan to do something differently, and decide that you don\u2019t <\/span>have<\/span><\/i> to listen to that voice in your head.<\/span><\/p>\n Are you going to have one bad day and go totally off the rails? <\/b>Great! Now you know that when you have one bad day, you can forgive yourself, not look back in anger or guilt, and get right back on track.<\/span><\/p>\n Are you going to give up even though you really really really want to push through? Great!<\/b> This happens to all of us when motivation wanes after a few weeks. Consider<\/span> \u200b<\/span>adding a Ulysses Pact<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a> to guard against your weaknesses or making a bet with a friend to keep you accountable.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n NF Coach Matt Myers was recently on the<\/b> \u200b<\/span>Mental Golf Podcast with Josh Nichols<\/b>\u200b<\/span><\/a> – and at the 24:30 mark in the episode, Matt pointed out something to Josh that surprised him:<\/b><\/p>\n \u201cYou told me before you started, ‘I know I\u2019m going to come out of the gates HARD, but about 3 weeks in, I\u2019m going to burn out and disappear.’<\/span><\/p>\n And I said, ‘Thanks for letting me know,’ and I had all these alarms and alerts ready to check in with you repeatedly around the 21 day mark!”<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Josh had the self-awareness to know where he would screw up in the future, he and Coach Matt planned for it, and got over the hump together.<\/span><\/p>\n Since then, they\u2019ve worked together for two months (and counting), and Josh has only missed a single day of checking in and missing one day didn\u2019t cause Josh\u2019s normal \u201call-or-nothing\u201d behavior to kick in!<\/span><\/p>\n We all set out to change, and even when we\u2019re self-aware\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n We often bite off more than we can chew:<\/span><\/p>\n Our goals and hopes often exceed the reality that we\u2019re fallible, busy, complicated humans living unpredictable lives.<\/span><\/p>\n That\u2019s okay!<\/span><\/p>\n If we\u2019re aware of these things, if we can try differently\u2026then even if this <\/span>next<\/span><\/i> attempt doesn\u2019t work either, we can remove that strategy from the list of potential successful paths, and try again.<\/span><\/p>\n That\u2019s all life is anyway: try, fail, adjust, restart.<\/span><\/p>\n -Steve<\/b><\/p>\n PS:<\/b> If you don\u2019t want to go on this journey alone, I\u2019d be honored if you check out<\/span> \u200b<\/span>the NF Coaching Program<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n Our coaches are awesome and we\u2019d love to help you reach your goals. We\u2019ve had a TON of sign-ups these past few days, which has me really excited to help so many new people.<\/span><\/p>\n The post What\u2019s different this time?<\/a> first appeared on Nerd Fitness<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Today is the most hope and optimism-filled day of the year. That\u2019s great! Whatever goals or resolutions you\u2019ve set for yourself, I\u2019m excited for you! We\u2019re all trying to better ourselves, and even though things haven\u2019t worked out the way we wanted them to in the past, we hope this time will be different. Musician…Question 1: What’s different this time?<\/b><\/h2>\n
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Question 2: What are you afraid of?<\/b><\/h2>\n
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This time CAN be different<\/b><\/h2>\n
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