What went right, what went wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n What we accomplished, what we failed to follow through on.<\/span><\/p>\n If you\u2019re anything like me, it\u2019s easy to overindex on the \u201cwhat went wrong\u201d part, and feel all sorts of negative emotions around those things.<\/span><\/p>\n We might look back with guilt at something we did or didn\u2019t do. As I mentioned in an earlier newsletter, I\u2019m somebody who has<\/span> \u200b<\/span>the most amount of \u201cCatholic guilt\u201d<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a> even though I\u2019m not religious.<\/span><\/p>\n I stumbled across a story a few months back that I\u2019m still thinking about. Allegedly, there\u2019s no word in the Tibetan language that directly translates to \u201cguilt.\u201d The closest possible translation is something closer to \u201cintelligent regret.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n I don\u2019t speak Tibetan and I haven\u2019t been able to track down a Tibetan speaker to confirm this, but I think it\u2019s a beautiful sentiment that can help us as we move into 2025.<\/span><\/p>\n Guilt can be corrosive and unproductive. But as Dan Pink points out in his book<\/span> \u200b<\/span>The Power of Regret<\/span><\/i>\u200b<\/span><\/a>,<\/span><\/i> looking backward with the right <\/span>kind<\/span><\/i> of regret about things that happened or didn\u2019t happen can actually be powerful and transformative for our future selves.<\/span><\/p>\n So, rather than trying to live a life of \u201cno ragrets\u201d (the opposite of intelligence)…<\/span><\/p>\n We can apply regret intelligently to how 2024 went.<\/b><\/p>\n So, in honor of the band Oasis reuniting for the coming year,<\/span> \u200b<\/span>don\u2019t look back in anger<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a> (still an all-time jam, by the way).<\/span><\/p>\n Instead\u2026let\u2019s look back with curiosity.<\/span><\/p>\n Take some time today, and look back on your year with<\/b> \u200b<\/span>curiosity, not judgment<\/b>\u200b<\/span><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n Did you accomplish the things they wanted to accomplish? Great! I bet you learned something.<\/span><\/p>\n Did your life go off the rails and you spent most of the year just trying to stay afloat! Great! I bet you learned something! Did you start and stop and bail on a goal repeatedly? Great! I bet you learned something!<\/span><\/p>\n Write these things down. Notice the emotions you feel as you look back. Write down what you learned, and how that can inform future decisions or choices you make.<\/span><\/p>\n Maybe you learned that you hate running, or that going Keto was an absolute failure, or that becoming a first-time parent really messed with your life entirely, or that we can\u2019t stick to a morning routine.<\/span><\/p>\n These are all things that happened. Now, we must decide what sort of emotion to apply to those things.<\/span><\/p>\n Remember,<\/span> \u200b<\/span>the past isn\u2019t set in stone<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a>, and some of these setbacks or failures might be the very lesson you needed to learn for Future You. They might be the catalyst for your next step forward.<\/span><\/p>\n Remember, it\u2019s NOT \u201cI screwed up\/failed, therefore I\u2019m a lost cause\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s, \u201cI screwed up\/failed, and learned this lesson I can apply towards 2025.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Next week, we\u2019ll be kicking off our<\/span> \u200b<\/span>free 5-day challenge<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a> with coach Matt from Team NF.<\/span><\/p>\n If 2024 didn\u2019t turn out the way you wanted or hoped, I\u2019m sorry.<\/span><\/p>\n Life is weird and change is hard.<\/span><\/p>\n Let\u2019s make 2025 different! After all, if you do what you\u2019ve always done, you\u2019ll get what you\u2019ve always got.<\/span><\/p>\n If you want things to be different, let\u2019s make that happen.<\/span><\/p>\n The Nerd Fitness Rebellion will be with you all the way.<\/span><\/p>\n Have a great holiday, and I\u2019ll talk to you next week.<\/span><\/p>\n -Steve<\/b><\/p>\n PS:<\/b> Here\u2019s that<\/span> \u200b<\/span>sign-up one more time for our free 5-day challenge<\/span>\u200b<\/span><\/a>. Cheers!<\/span><\/p>\n The post Don\u2019t look back in anger<\/a> first appeared on Nerd Fitness<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" 2024 is drawing to a close, so I wanted to hit you with one final newsletter before the chaos of 2025 kicks off. It\u2019s that time of year where our brains will almost automatically look back on the past year. What went right, what went wrong. What we accomplished, what we failed to follow through…<\/p>\n
Look back with curiosity, not judgment.<\/b><\/h2>\n
How will 2025 be different?<\/b><\/h2>\n
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